Multiplicity Meme, ganked from ![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
crystal_cave_clan (Day One)
Jul. 10th, 2011 11:47 amhouse_gembellSo, we've been pretty quiet here lately, and to make up for it, we're gonna do a meme! Lets see if we can make it through all 30 days.
1. How do you communicate? (Do you ever hear each others voices? Do you ever talk to/with each other out loud? Do you ever leave notes for one another? Do you ever communicate without words (using images/feelings/colors/etc)?)
We tend to talk to each other in the headspace, although sometimes in the shower we'll talk to each other. Em will email Beth sometimes, when Beth needs to remember something, and yes, we'll leave each other little written notes, too. And sometimes we'll communicate just by... projecting ourselves, I guess? Like, for example, Beth's having a bad day, and she'll lay down and Em will cuddle her, and they'll both actually feel it. (It gets unsettling sometimes, cuddling and being cuddled at the same time, haha.)
2. How do you find new members? (Do you find other members mostly through journaling? Or can you see and hear them?)
3. How do you choose who wears what? Do you argue over clothing styles?
4. How are decisions made in the front (consensus/majority rules/one person makes them/other)?
5. Is knowledge shared equally or do some people have access to things that other people don't?
6. Can you remember things that other people in your group do? Are you aware of what happens in the front when you're not there?
7. Do you remember dreams? Are they your own? Do you share each others' dreams?
8. Do you all take responsibility when you wrong somebody as a group effort, more collective apology or do you expect the person who did the wrong to fess up?
9. Is there one in your group that stays in the body for more time than the rest? (How often do your primary front-runners change? How often do frontiers switch out? Is fronting a skill that has to be taught?)
10. How do you parcel out time during waking hours between work, school, hobbies, social commitments? Is it left up to whomever is in the front or do you plan it out? How do you balance money/space usage?
11. Are there noticeable differences with who fronts? How can an outsider recognize a switch? How would I know whom in your group I'm speaking to? Do you announce yourselves? What's the most polite way to ask who I'm talking to? What if I want to talk to (name) but (name) is out?
12. Ever have someone stuck at the front? What makes you get stuck here or home?
13. How do people compensate for not having their bodies out front (ex. not matching the body's gender or appearance)? How does the physical body impact upon the consciousness? Particularly in cases where the gender or even species are different, does it have some profound effects on the way you'd interact with or view the world?
14. What age range do you have in your system? Do younger or older front runners have a hard time not being in an age appropriate body? Do you have children/minors in your system? What, if any, restrictions do you place on their behavior, in-system and publicly?
15. If you could call what you are something other than MPD/DID, natural Plural or Multiple what other term might you use? Or do you like one of the existing ones? Do you call yourselves a system?
16. How do you all decide how much of yourselves is public? Do you tell everyone that you're multiple? Are you more comfortable around other multiples than around singlets?
17. How do you keep track of who is in your system?
18. Who are new acquaintances most likely to meet first?
19. When did you all realize you were a group? Have there always been several people in your body since birth?
20. Did something "cause" your multiplicity? Do you believe in the medical model at all, for yourself or others?
21. Tell me about your ideas on integration and separateness. How does it affect your worldview?
22. Does anyone in your household/group lose time?
23. Does your system as a whole deal with other kinds of neuroatypicality? Do individuals?
24. How are your memories stored (each person has her or his own/different people store different types/some are personal and some are shared by everyone/other/combination)? Who has access to memories (only the person there/only certain people/anyone they affected/need to know basis)?
25. Is anyone's identity tied to the body? How do people whose self-identification does not match the body deal with it? Does anyone in your group use the body's birth certificate name?
26. Do you have a group name? How did you get it?
27. How are relationships handled in your group? Do you have in-system relationships? Out-of-system relationships? Is the body functionally asexual, monogamous, polyamorous or something else?
28. Do you celebrate any birthdays? The body's? Individuals'?
29. Any advice for someone who is trying to figure out if they're multiple, or for a new multiple just getting to know their system?
1. How do you communicate? (Do you ever hear each others voices? Do you ever talk to/with each other out loud? Do you ever leave notes for one another? Do you ever communicate without words (using images/feelings/colors/etc)?)
We tend to talk to each other in the headspace, although sometimes in the shower we'll talk to each other. Em will email Beth sometimes, when Beth needs to remember something, and yes, we'll leave each other little written notes, too. And sometimes we'll communicate just by... projecting ourselves, I guess? Like, for example, Beth's having a bad day, and she'll lay down and Em will cuddle her, and they'll both actually feel it. (It gets unsettling sometimes, cuddling and being cuddled at the same time, haha.)
2. How do you find new members? (Do you find other members mostly through journaling? Or can you see and hear them?)
3. How do you choose who wears what? Do you argue over clothing styles?
4. How are decisions made in the front (consensus/majority rules/one person makes them/other)?
5. Is knowledge shared equally or do some people have access to things that other people don't?
6. Can you remember things that other people in your group do? Are you aware of what happens in the front when you're not there?
7. Do you remember dreams? Are they your own? Do you share each others' dreams?
8. Do you all take responsibility when you wrong somebody as a group effort, more collective apology or do you expect the person who did the wrong to fess up?
9. Is there one in your group that stays in the body for more time than the rest? (How often do your primary front-runners change? How often do frontiers switch out? Is fronting a skill that has to be taught?)
10. How do you parcel out time during waking hours between work, school, hobbies, social commitments? Is it left up to whomever is in the front or do you plan it out? How do you balance money/space usage?
11. Are there noticeable differences with who fronts? How can an outsider recognize a switch? How would I know whom in your group I'm speaking to? Do you announce yourselves? What's the most polite way to ask who I'm talking to? What if I want to talk to (name) but (name) is out?
12. Ever have someone stuck at the front? What makes you get stuck here or home?
13. How do people compensate for not having their bodies out front (ex. not matching the body's gender or appearance)? How does the physical body impact upon the consciousness? Particularly in cases where the gender or even species are different, does it have some profound effects on the way you'd interact with or view the world?
14. What age range do you have in your system? Do younger or older front runners have a hard time not being in an age appropriate body? Do you have children/minors in your system? What, if any, restrictions do you place on their behavior, in-system and publicly?
15. If you could call what you are something other than MPD/DID, natural Plural or Multiple what other term might you use? Or do you like one of the existing ones? Do you call yourselves a system?
16. How do you all decide how much of yourselves is public? Do you tell everyone that you're multiple? Are you more comfortable around other multiples than around singlets?
17. How do you keep track of who is in your system?
18. Who are new acquaintances most likely to meet first?
19. When did you all realize you were a group? Have there always been several people in your body since birth?
20. Did something "cause" your multiplicity? Do you believe in the medical model at all, for yourself or others?
21. Tell me about your ideas on integration and separateness. How does it affect your worldview?
22. Does anyone in your household/group lose time?
23. Does your system as a whole deal with other kinds of neuroatypicality? Do individuals?
24. How are your memories stored (each person has her or his own/different people store different types/some are personal and some are shared by everyone/other/combination)? Who has access to memories (only the person there/only certain people/anyone they affected/need to know basis)?
25. Is anyone's identity tied to the body? How do people whose self-identification does not match the body deal with it? Does anyone in your group use the body's birth certificate name?
26. Do you have a group name? How did you get it?
27. How are relationships handled in your group? Do you have in-system relationships? Out-of-system relationships? Is the body functionally asexual, monogamous, polyamorous or something else?
28. Do you celebrate any birthdays? The body's? Individuals'?
29. Any advice for someone who is trying to figure out if they're multiple, or for a new multiple just getting to know their system?
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Date: 2011-07-10 04:48 pm (UTC)