That meme we keep forgetting to do
Aug. 2nd, 2011 03:30 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
house_gembellI hate butting Ell out of the way but HOLY CRAP WE FORGOT THE MEME.
So I'm gonna catch us up a little. :D
6. Can you remember things that other people in your group do? Are you aware of what happens in the front when you're not there?
Beth and I generally remember what the other does when one's fronting - unless one of us wants private time, and that's usually me, aheheheheh. But yeah. Beth and I are good at letting the others be aware. Ellie, though, when she goes off on her vacations, she doesn't tell us where she goes. Hell, she doesn't even really talk about them, just that she's gone and now she's back. (speaking of Ellie I hope she sticks around for a while)
7. Do you remember dreams? Are they your own? Do you share each others' dreams?
We remember our own dreams, or sometimes Beth'll wake up and say "Oh, Em had a good dream last night" because she can... kinda feel the residue of that dream? I dunno. Sometimes we do share dreams - we'll both be in one and we'll talk to each other and everything. Mostly Ellie and I share dreams, but once in a while Beth and I will dream together.
8. Do you all take responsibility when you wrong somebody as a group effort, more collective apology or do you expect the person who did the wrong to fess up?
Hm. I guess it's a group effort? Depends on how we screwed up, who it involves, and so on. When I piss the husband off, for example, Beth will end up apologizing for me, because she knows I wouldn't do it on my own. But if I end up screwing things up with Kyte, I think everyone here'd try to patch things up. Mostly because we're close with his entire system. And I think Beth kinda views him as an adorable little brother. But shhh. She probably didn't want me saying that. And I'm way off topic here. Next question!
9. Is there one in your group that stays in the body for more time than the rest? (How often do your primary front-runners change? How often do frontiers switch out? Is fronting a skill that has to be taught?)
Beth tends to have most of the front time, considering she's got the body's legal identity and everything. Aside from her, though, I front a hell of a lot more than Ellie does. Ell and I didn't really need to be taught how to front, although it was a different experience for both of us when we first started to front. Beth had to help me forward - I'd struggle in the back sometimes, trying to get front, and Beth'd play some of my favorite music and it'd get me relaxed enough to get to front. Ellie, she just slips in and out like a natural. Sometimes we don't even realize she's there until she speaks, haha.
10. How do you parcel out time during waking hours between work, school, hobbies, social commitments? Is it left up to whomever is in the front or do you plan it out? How do you balance money/space usage?
We're still working on that, now that we've moved and are trying to settle into a new work routine. I tend to get to come out in the evenings, when we don't have to work, and on the weekends too. And sometimes I sneak out during band practice and play, which is funny, because nobody ever thinks of me as a band geek. As for money? I ask Beth if I can buy something. She asks the husband. He rolls his eyes, and generally I get what I was looking for. Then again, I don't ask for much. The biggest thing I've asked for is my wig.
11. Are there noticeable differences with who fronts? How can an outsider recognize a switch? How would I know whom in your group I'm speaking to? Do you announce yourselves? What's the most polite way to ask who I'm talking to? What if I want to talk to (name) but (name) is out?
12. Ever have someone stuck at the front? What makes you get stuck here or home?
13. How do people compensate for not having their bodies out front (ex. not matching the body's gender or appearance)? How does the physical body impact upon the consciousness? Particularly in cases where the gender or even species are different, does it have some profound effects on the way you'd interact with or view the world?
14. What age range do you have in your system? Do younger or older front runners have a hard time not being in an age appropriate body? Do you have children/minors in your system? What, if any, restrictions do you place on their behavior, in-system and publicly?
15. If you could call what you are something other than MPD/DID, natural Plural or Multiple what other term might you use? Or do you like one of the existing ones? Do you call yourselves a system?
16. How do you all decide how much of yourselves is public? Do you tell everyone that you're multiple? Are you more comfortable around other multiples than around singlets?
17. How do you keep track of who is in your system?
18. Who are new acquaintances most likely to meet first?
19. When did you all realize you were a group? Have there always been several people in your body since birth?
20. Did something "cause" your multiplicity? Do you believe in the medical model at all, for yourself or others?
21. Tell me about your ideas on integration and separateness. How does it affect your worldview?
22. Does anyone in your household/group lose time?
23. Does your system as a whole deal with other kinds of neuroatypicality? Do individuals?
24. How are your memories stored (each person has her or his own/different people store different types/some are personal and some are shared by everyone/other/combination)? Who has access to memories (only the person there/only certain people/anyone they affected/need to know basis)?
25. Is anyone's identity tied to the body? How do people whose self-identification does not match the body deal with it? Does anyone in your group use the body's birth certificate name?
26. Do you have a group name? How did you get it?
27. How are relationships handled in your group? Do you have in-system relationships? Out-of-system relationships? Is the body functionally asexual, monogamous, polyamorous or something else?
28. Do you celebrate any birthdays? The body's? Individuals'?
29. Any advice for someone who is trying to figure out if they're multiple, or for a new multiple just getting to know their system?
So I'm gonna catch us up a little. :D
6. Can you remember things that other people in your group do? Are you aware of what happens in the front when you're not there?
Beth and I generally remember what the other does when one's fronting - unless one of us wants private time, and that's usually me, aheheheheh. But yeah. Beth and I are good at letting the others be aware. Ellie, though, when she goes off on her vacations, she doesn't tell us where she goes. Hell, she doesn't even really talk about them, just that she's gone and now she's back. (speaking of Ellie I hope she sticks around for a while)
7. Do you remember dreams? Are they your own? Do you share each others' dreams?
We remember our own dreams, or sometimes Beth'll wake up and say "Oh, Em had a good dream last night" because she can... kinda feel the residue of that dream? I dunno. Sometimes we do share dreams - we'll both be in one and we'll talk to each other and everything. Mostly Ellie and I share dreams, but once in a while Beth and I will dream together.
8. Do you all take responsibility when you wrong somebody as a group effort, more collective apology or do you expect the person who did the wrong to fess up?
Hm. I guess it's a group effort? Depends on how we screwed up, who it involves, and so on. When I piss the husband off, for example, Beth will end up apologizing for me, because she knows I wouldn't do it on my own. But if I end up screwing things up with Kyte, I think everyone here'd try to patch things up. Mostly because we're close with his entire system. And I think Beth kinda views him as an adorable little brother. But shhh. She probably didn't want me saying that. And I'm way off topic here. Next question!
9. Is there one in your group that stays in the body for more time than the rest? (How often do your primary front-runners change? How often do frontiers switch out? Is fronting a skill that has to be taught?)
Beth tends to have most of the front time, considering she's got the body's legal identity and everything. Aside from her, though, I front a hell of a lot more than Ellie does. Ell and I didn't really need to be taught how to front, although it was a different experience for both of us when we first started to front. Beth had to help me forward - I'd struggle in the back sometimes, trying to get front, and Beth'd play some of my favorite music and it'd get me relaxed enough to get to front. Ellie, she just slips in and out like a natural. Sometimes we don't even realize she's there until she speaks, haha.
10. How do you parcel out time during waking hours between work, school, hobbies, social commitments? Is it left up to whomever is in the front or do you plan it out? How do you balance money/space usage?
We're still working on that, now that we've moved and are trying to settle into a new work routine. I tend to get to come out in the evenings, when we don't have to work, and on the weekends too. And sometimes I sneak out during band practice and play, which is funny, because nobody ever thinks of me as a band geek. As for money? I ask Beth if I can buy something. She asks the husband. He rolls his eyes, and generally I get what I was looking for. Then again, I don't ask for much. The biggest thing I've asked for is my wig.
11. Are there noticeable differences with who fronts? How can an outsider recognize a switch? How would I know whom in your group I'm speaking to? Do you announce yourselves? What's the most polite way to ask who I'm talking to? What if I want to talk to (name) but (name) is out?
12. Ever have someone stuck at the front? What makes you get stuck here or home?
13. How do people compensate for not having their bodies out front (ex. not matching the body's gender or appearance)? How does the physical body impact upon the consciousness? Particularly in cases where the gender or even species are different, does it have some profound effects on the way you'd interact with or view the world?
14. What age range do you have in your system? Do younger or older front runners have a hard time not being in an age appropriate body? Do you have children/minors in your system? What, if any, restrictions do you place on their behavior, in-system and publicly?
15. If you could call what you are something other than MPD/DID, natural Plural or Multiple what other term might you use? Or do you like one of the existing ones? Do you call yourselves a system?
16. How do you all decide how much of yourselves is public? Do you tell everyone that you're multiple? Are you more comfortable around other multiples than around singlets?
17. How do you keep track of who is in your system?
18. Who are new acquaintances most likely to meet first?
19. When did you all realize you were a group? Have there always been several people in your body since birth?
20. Did something "cause" your multiplicity? Do you believe in the medical model at all, for yourself or others?
21. Tell me about your ideas on integration and separateness. How does it affect your worldview?
22. Does anyone in your household/group lose time?
23. Does your system as a whole deal with other kinds of neuroatypicality? Do individuals?
24. How are your memories stored (each person has her or his own/different people store different types/some are personal and some are shared by everyone/other/combination)? Who has access to memories (only the person there/only certain people/anyone they affected/need to know basis)?
25. Is anyone's identity tied to the body? How do people whose self-identification does not match the body deal with it? Does anyone in your group use the body's birth certificate name?
26. Do you have a group name? How did you get it?
27. How are relationships handled in your group? Do you have in-system relationships? Out-of-system relationships? Is the body functionally asexual, monogamous, polyamorous or something else?
28. Do you celebrate any birthdays? The body's? Individuals'?
29. Any advice for someone who is trying to figure out if they're multiple, or for a new multiple just getting to know their system?