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house_gembell) wrote2011-07-14 07:36 am
house_gembell) wrote2011-07-14 07:36 am
Catching up time. XD
We are so horrible at memes... Also, since I'm mostly awake, you get the answers mostly from my point of view. (and me = Em. XD )
2. How do you find new members? (Do you find other members mostly through journaling? Or can you see and hear them?)
New members wander in, I guess. Like, when we figured out Ellie was part of the crew, it's because she just came in to visit, like she used to do back when we were younger but didn't realize exactly what was going on. I came out from some nasty traumatic stuff back when Beth was a teenager, and George was always around until recently, and we haven't had anyone new come in since... well, since I came in. I keep forgetting I'm the baby of this bunch, haha. I mean, Ellie just had her 15th birthday! (And that's not how old she identifies as, that's how many years she's been with us)
3. How do you choose who wears what? Do you argue over clothing styles?
OH LORD. Beth dresses like she did in high school - t-shirts and jeans. And I'm sick of it, haha. I like to dress in louder things. Like corsets, fishnet shirts, long skirts, gothic lolita, and so on. Ellie doesn't really care what we wear, as long as it's comfortable. She's not a fan of tight clothes.
4. How are decisions made in the front (consensus/majority rules/one person makes them/other)?
Well, since there's usually only two of us in residence now, and occasionally three, we try to come to a consensus when there's a decision to be made. What's best for all of us, and so on.
5. Is knowledge shared equally or do some people have access to things that other people don't?
We try to share knowledge equally. Ellie doesn't tend to share her knowledge with others, she keeps up a mysterious front, but Beth and I kind of have an open well of knowledge. Or a library. Either way, if I need to know something, or want to know something, I can find it. :D
6. Can you remember things that other people in your group do? Are you aware of what happens in the front when you're not there?
7. Do you remember dreams? Are they your own? Do you share each others' dreams?
8. Do you all take responsibility when you wrong somebody as a group effort, more collective apology or do you expect the person who did the wrong to fess up?
9. Is there one in your group that stays in the body for more time than the rest? (How often do your primary front-runners change? How often do frontiers switch out? Is fronting a skill that has to be taught?)
10. How do you parcel out time during waking hours between work, school, hobbies, social commitments? Is it left up to whomever is in the front or do you plan it out? How do you balance money/space usage?
11. Are there noticeable differences with who fronts? How can an outsider recognize a switch? How would I know whom in your group I'm speaking to? Do you announce yourselves? What's the most polite way to ask who I'm talking to? What if I want to talk to (name) but (name) is out?
12. Ever have someone stuck at the front? What makes you get stuck here or home?
13. How do people compensate for not having their bodies out front (ex. not matching the body's gender or appearance)? How does the physical body impact upon the consciousness? Particularly in cases where the gender or even species are different, does it have some profound effects on the way you'd interact with or view the world?
14. What age range do you have in your system? Do younger or older front runners have a hard time not being in an age appropriate body? Do you have children/minors in your system? What, if any, restrictions do you place on their behavior, in-system and publicly?
15. If you could call what you are something other than MPD/DID, natural Plural or Multiple what other term might you use? Or do you like one of the existing ones? Do you call yourselves a system?
16. How do you all decide how much of yourselves is public? Do you tell everyone that you're multiple? Are you more comfortable around other multiples than around singlets?
17. How do you keep track of who is in your system?
18. Who are new acquaintances most likely to meet first?
19. When did you all realize you were a group? Have there always been several people in your body since birth?
20. Did something "cause" your multiplicity? Do you believe in the medical model at all, for yourself or others?
21. Tell me about your ideas on integration and separateness. How does it affect your worldview?
22. Does anyone in your household/group lose time?
23. Does your system as a whole deal with other kinds of neuroatypicality? Do individuals?
24. How are your memories stored (each person has her or his own/different people store different types/some are personal and some are shared by everyone/other/combination)? Who has access to memories (only the person there/only certain people/anyone they affected/need to know basis)?
25. Is anyone's identity tied to the body? How do people whose self-identification does not match the body deal with it? Does anyone in your group use the body's birth certificate name?
26. Do you have a group name? How did you get it?
27. How are relationships handled in your group? Do you have in-system relationships? Out-of-system relationships? Is the body functionally asexual, monogamous, polyamorous or something else?
28. Do you celebrate any birthdays? The body's? Individuals'?
29. Any advice for someone who is trying to figure out if they're multiple, or for a new multiple just getting to know their system?
2. How do you find new members? (Do you find other members mostly through journaling? Or can you see and hear them?)
New members wander in, I guess. Like, when we figured out Ellie was part of the crew, it's because she just came in to visit, like she used to do back when we were younger but didn't realize exactly what was going on. I came out from some nasty traumatic stuff back when Beth was a teenager, and George was always around until recently, and we haven't had anyone new come in since... well, since I came in. I keep forgetting I'm the baby of this bunch, haha. I mean, Ellie just had her 15th birthday! (And that's not how old she identifies as, that's how many years she's been with us)
3. How do you choose who wears what? Do you argue over clothing styles?
OH LORD. Beth dresses like she did in high school - t-shirts and jeans. And I'm sick of it, haha. I like to dress in louder things. Like corsets, fishnet shirts, long skirts, gothic lolita, and so on. Ellie doesn't really care what we wear, as long as it's comfortable. She's not a fan of tight clothes.
4. How are decisions made in the front (consensus/majority rules/one person makes them/other)?
Well, since there's usually only two of us in residence now, and occasionally three, we try to come to a consensus when there's a decision to be made. What's best for all of us, and so on.
5. Is knowledge shared equally or do some people have access to things that other people don't?
We try to share knowledge equally. Ellie doesn't tend to share her knowledge with others, she keeps up a mysterious front, but Beth and I kind of have an open well of knowledge. Or a library. Either way, if I need to know something, or want to know something, I can find it. :D
6. Can you remember things that other people in your group do? Are you aware of what happens in the front when you're not there?
7. Do you remember dreams? Are they your own? Do you share each others' dreams?
8. Do you all take responsibility when you wrong somebody as a group effort, more collective apology or do you expect the person who did the wrong to fess up?
9. Is there one in your group that stays in the body for more time than the rest? (How often do your primary front-runners change? How often do frontiers switch out? Is fronting a skill that has to be taught?)
10. How do you parcel out time during waking hours between work, school, hobbies, social commitments? Is it left up to whomever is in the front or do you plan it out? How do you balance money/space usage?
11. Are there noticeable differences with who fronts? How can an outsider recognize a switch? How would I know whom in your group I'm speaking to? Do you announce yourselves? What's the most polite way to ask who I'm talking to? What if I want to talk to (name) but (name) is out?
12. Ever have someone stuck at the front? What makes you get stuck here or home?
13. How do people compensate for not having their bodies out front (ex. not matching the body's gender or appearance)? How does the physical body impact upon the consciousness? Particularly in cases where the gender or even species are different, does it have some profound effects on the way you'd interact with or view the world?
14. What age range do you have in your system? Do younger or older front runners have a hard time not being in an age appropriate body? Do you have children/minors in your system? What, if any, restrictions do you place on their behavior, in-system and publicly?
15. If you could call what you are something other than MPD/DID, natural Plural or Multiple what other term might you use? Or do you like one of the existing ones? Do you call yourselves a system?
16. How do you all decide how much of yourselves is public? Do you tell everyone that you're multiple? Are you more comfortable around other multiples than around singlets?
17. How do you keep track of who is in your system?
18. Who are new acquaintances most likely to meet first?
19. When did you all realize you were a group? Have there always been several people in your body since birth?
20. Did something "cause" your multiplicity? Do you believe in the medical model at all, for yourself or others?
21. Tell me about your ideas on integration and separateness. How does it affect your worldview?
22. Does anyone in your household/group lose time?
23. Does your system as a whole deal with other kinds of neuroatypicality? Do individuals?
24. How are your memories stored (each person has her or his own/different people store different types/some are personal and some are shared by everyone/other/combination)? Who has access to memories (only the person there/only certain people/anyone they affected/need to know basis)?
25. Is anyone's identity tied to the body? How do people whose self-identification does not match the body deal with it? Does anyone in your group use the body's birth certificate name?
26. Do you have a group name? How did you get it?
27. How are relationships handled in your group? Do you have in-system relationships? Out-of-system relationships? Is the body functionally asexual, monogamous, polyamorous or something else?
28. Do you celebrate any birthdays? The body's? Individuals'?
29. Any advice for someone who is trying to figure out if they're multiple, or for a new multiple just getting to know their system?